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coorslite
Intermediate Member
Username: coorslite
Post Number: 410
Registered: 10-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Wednesday, October 04, 2006 - 10:45 pm: | 
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I got a bunch of phone calls this morning from people I used to work with at Crapplehell. One of the managers died in a car accident last night. I didn't like her but I wouldn't wish death on anyone... even lords although if she died I wouldn't care. And to be honest... I don't have any feelings about this person. But the calls I've gotten are getting on my nerves. I am really a decent person I think. I love the people that have called me about her but I don't have anything to offer them as far as fond memories of her because I have none. I have been listening to them and offering sympathy for thier loss. The ones that have called are so dear to my heart but I'm to the point of screaming! I hate to tell them that it really doesn't affect me. Because to be honest it would be the same way if it had been me instead of her. I'm trying to be a good friend for them but I don't have it in my heart to feel any pain. Does that make sense? I don't want to be a hypocrite... so I'm trying to do what I can to help and hold my feelings in. Yeah it is bothering me. Because I don't want to let my friends down but I don't feel how they do. I've got my phone cut off now and don't know if I want to turn it back on tomorrow. I hate being like this. It is sad she died. It's sad I don't feel. I also cried like a baby when puppy number 6 died last night. So does that make me a crazy person? Just wanted to vent.... Thanks! |
tipqueen
Intermediate Member
Username: tipqueen
Post Number: 350
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, October 05, 2006 - 07:22 am: |
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hmmm....
I guess taking the phone off the hook was a good thing. And I guess all I cna say is to say "I'm sorry about XXX death" if they want to tlak memories etc, let them know your busy and taht you will keep them in your thoughts.
Gotta think on this one before I type/answer too much (but I know how you feel, and that is OK... some people are closer than others... and that is OK!)
Sorry about the puppy (puppies)....and I am sure that dealing with that, has some part of your lack of emotions to the other... making you want to scream.
You are making complete sense! I understand atleast.... sending you a big warm hug! Take care of YOU and YOUR concerns first, that is what is most important!
BIG HUGS and HAPPY WISHES being sent to you! |
vozveratu
Advanced Member
Username: vozveratu
Post Number: 877
Registered: 01-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, October 05, 2006 - 09:03 am: |
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Coorslite, I feel ya. There is a reason these people are coming to you for help and it's good to know that there are people like you who care.
I dread the day when loved ones of my wife start to pass away and I'm preparing myself to be a shoulder most of the time when that day comes.
There comes a time though that grieving stops and they won't call you so much. All I can say is show support, sympathize and realize that soon they will heal and stop calling you so much. |